I'd like to point out that forgiveness is a tough battle.
It's easy to say "forgive, not for anybody else, but for yourself so you may find peace" and let your anger, pain, hurt and even suffering go.
But truth of the matter, because we have been hurt, it's difficult to just forgive, even though it may be for our own healing sometimes. its not that easy to just forgive, especially if the other party is not even sorry for the wrong done...
What I suggest is to allow your anger, for the situation, even for the person. Allow it, don't suppress it. No, I don't mean go and have a shouting or even a physical match with the other person. But allow yourself to feel the anger, the betrayal, let it simmer even, until the flames of your emotion slow down and eventually the embers will cool off and wither
When your anger has died down, as it eventually will, work on your peace. Learn to let go of the anger, the pain and all the hurt that the situation or the person caused. You need not "make peace" with them. No need for closure or talk. Just let them go. They are not meant to stay at your table. They are visitors in your life, not family, not meant to stay. When you have worked through all those things, then you can forgive, you will find that elusive peace.,
Through all this, PRAY! I'm not being all religious on you, but if you learn to talk to God and surrender everything to Him, even your pain, you will find that it helps, it helps you let go of your pain, it helps you let go of the anger. He eases the pain until you eventually don't feel it anymore and eventually, you can allow yourself to live. As they say, THE BEST REVENGE IS A LIFE WELL LIVED, so live your life, be happy. It may take a bit of time, but you will get there, I assure you. You will be happy again.
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